Mothers group in the works

Organizational meeting is Jan. 8 at the REC

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Caring for infants, toddlers and pre-schoolers can leave some women starved for adult connections, even if they don’t know it.

Vanessa Janis is working to provide a remedy by creating a local MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group in Paris. An organizational meeting is 1 p.m. Jan. 8 at the REC to gauge interest from other women.

“I felt it in my own heart to have a community of moms,” said Janis, who is the mother of two boys – 13 and three years of age.

The goal of a mothers group is to create a network of women who can meet together and share their experiences, learn from each other and find mentoring with older women who have already raised their families. Janis said the older boy gave her experience and now she is going through motherhood all over again with the younger child.

“Some options are doing book studies, organizing play dates for the kids, having outings in the summer with the kids and maybe a moms’ night out,” she said.

Another mothers group existed in Paris about a year ago and Janis participated. She said it only met for a few times because the person who organized it moved, and the group fell apart. Still, she saw the potential.

“The first group did a Bible study at my church where we had babysitting service,” she said. “We had adult conversation.”

Some of the issues she remembers discussed at those meetings included things like potty training and home schooling versus public schooling.

Wanting to avoid past errors of having a group dependent on one person, she researched the topic of how to form a mothers group.

“I looked into MOPS. It is more structured and has an organizational background,” said Janis. “You have to pay to be in it to get the materials.”

Cost is a concern for her and she does not want that to be an obstacle to women wanting to attend the first meeting. She sees disadvantages and advantages with a paid membership.

The big disadvantage is the expense may keep some who want to participate from doing so. Perhaps the biggest advantage is paying to participate with an organization creates a sense of commitment.

“That may be why the other “You have to pay to be in it to get the materials.”

Cost is a concern for her and she does not want that to be an obstacle to women wanting to attend the first meeting. She sees disadvantages and advantages with a paid membership.

The big disadvantage is the expense may keep some who want to participate from doing so. Perhaps the biggest advantage is paying to participate with an organization creates a sense of commitment.

“That may be why the other groups fizzled, because they were not structured,” she said.

Janis emphasized the organizational format of the proposed group is not final and any woman interested should attend the Jan. 8 meeting to help set the direction.

“I want the group to decide what’s best for everybody,” she said, adding that includes any costs, meeting times, locations, if meetings should be just mothers or if meeting sites and times must be kid friendly.

The first meeting is in the REC babysitting room so women can bring their children if that is more convenient for them.

“I would like it to be open to all moms for this first meeting,” said Janis. More experienced moms are welcome to volunteer with the group. It’s a place for everybody.”

Anyone wanting information or having ideas about a mothers group may contact Janis through Facebook at 61944 Moms.